As per the
Oxford Dictionary:
Adventure time in my life used to involve physical risk. Big mountains, long trail runs stuff, we see adventure athletes like Ryan Sandes from Red Bull take head on. Yes, I always aspired to be an adventure athlete. But, alas, we mere mortals must do desk jockey work to keep the bacon on the table. So I have opted to do trail running as a hobby and rather tackle the adventurous life of marriage and raising children.
You might disagree that family life is not an adventure, but I would like to point you to the definition of adventure: "A reckless or potentially hazardous action", "Put one's money or life at risk". Those that disagree with me probably never saw the fury of an upset wife or the never ending black hole for money in raising kids. Dont get me wrong, I love every moment and I love my wife and child.
Adventure is no more an outing in the mountains in horrible weather all alone. The same type of planning does go into normal family life though. You still need to pack, repack, check, check and check again before you leave the house with a baby. Even for the most rudimentary of activities like picking up milk and bread. Because heaven forbid if a dirty diaper strikes you in the middle of the dairy isle and you have no diapers available!
Big adventures can be expensive. Equipment, accommodation, travelling, recce. So maybe raising a baby boy is not so much different. Its expensive, diapers, wet wipes, toys, diapers, food, breakages.
According to
Psychology Today there is five elements to adventure. I will attempt to draw some parallels between adventure in the outdoors and adventure in normal life:
1.
"Adventure is high endeavor. It is the ability to think big and think bigger about who you are, how you live, and what you can do in the world."
-The effect a parent can have on his kids are tremendous and bigger than we can think. Raising a child to honour and respect his fellow beings and nature are just as glorious as going to some far of land to climb a high mountain in raising funds for a charity.
2.
"Adventure is total commitment. It is the spirit of willingness to embrace challenge and move toward success. It is the acknowledgement that total commitment does not mean blind faith or brazen disregard, but it is confidence and belief in the face of challenge."
- Only 100% commitment will get you to the top of Mount Everest. Only 100% commitment and belief will raise a well adjusted child that can make a difference in the world one day.
3.
"Adventure has an uncertain outcome. A predetermined outcome is not an adventure but a packaged experience or amusement ride. Life is uncertain - get comfortable with it! It is the acknowledgement that there will be adversity and unease, but that an uncertain outcome is a gift of possibility."
- Planning on rowing the pacific ocean? Accuweather.com saying the weather is looking good? Dont trust a weatherman I always say. its going to be a rough trip and the sooner you adjust mentally for it the better. Kids will always throw you a curve ball. You just think you have sorted out that sleeping cycle and then they start having other issues. Hard part is they cant explain whats wrong and its up to you to figure it out.
4.
"Adventure is tolerance for adversity. It is our ability to be resilient in the face of challenge. Our willingness to laugh, use humor, and graceful during difficult situations. The opportunity we each face to take a step back and acknowledge the sometimes absurd aspects of being human, embrace it, and continue on."
-Adventures dont go as plan always, and the best medicine is to take it in your stride and believe you have done all you can and enjoy a cold one afterwards. Your kiddies will challenge you with difficult questions or by challenging your rules. Either way its going to be a bumpy ride and you better take their awkward "Where did I come from?" questions in your stride.
5.
"Adventure is great companionship. While our lives can sometimes feel solitary, we can't do it alone. It takes a team to support living in commitment, joy, generosity, and gratitude."
- Companionship is what family is about, through the good and through the bad.
Family life and "extreme" sports are equally adventurous. The one gets more praise and exposure than the other. Doesnt matter how you see it, both can have a profound positive effect on your life and YOU can have a profound positive effect on people through adventure!
Call for Comments: Did you exchange an adventurous outdoor life for the adventures of family life? Or have you got the magic key to getting your family involved in your adventurous outdoor lifestyle? How did you do it?